People have gotten today all wrong. Yes, it is a day to seek forgiveness from your elders and from those whom you have wronged but do you have to wait till today to actually apologise to them? If you've made a mistake and you know you're in the wrong, why can't you just apologise at that very instance of revelation. Why wait.
What got to me was that I received an apology from someone and the person even managed to tell me exactly when the mistake occurred and what the mistake was. Mind you, this mistake occurred MONTHS ago. Why wait so long to apologise especially when you realised that you were in the wrong and you knew it all along. I have no qualms with generic apologies but to be so precise and specific about 1 incident, now that's just unhealthy.
It gets worse. I was explaining to someone how I feel that the word "sorry" holds no value and therefore people abuse it. An apology does not solve any of the inherent problems the quarreling parties may have. The issues need to be addressed in order for the parties involved to move on. I don't see how saying sorry can mend the relationship without addressing why they were arguing in the first place. I'm not saying that apologising is irrelevant, it just shouldn't be the only solution.
The person laughs and says that it doesn't matter because we are all human anyway and we will make the same mistakes over and over again. I was appalled. No wonder we live in such a dysfunctional world. We make mistakes and then apologise knowing fully well that we will make that very same mistake again. Why the hell apologise in the first place?! The apology is to serve the purpose that you are telling the other party that you respect them and that you would not repeat the mistake! Even my P2 kids can tell you that! I've overheard a conversation where one of them apologises to another for shoving him. The other kid turns around and very calmly says, "Each time you shove me, you apologise. Why apologise when you're going to make the same mistake again." 8 years old, imagine that.
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